by Jesilee Bonofiglio LMSW, RPT
Happy New Year! A new year, a new month, a new day, all with new hopes and dreams! As well as new resolutions. Losing weight, exercising more, filling more buckets, or even improving your professional skills. One month in, and most people are already dropping their resolutions like the bottom line in your bank account through the holidays. Why do we do this? Why do we push ourselves into unreasonable ideas, like allowing a child into Tiffany’s and expecting them to actually not touch anything?
The most likely answer is that we want change. We want to believe that we can accomplish whatever we set ourselves to, whatever we dream. We forget that it requires determination, focus, and gut wrenching perseverance. Most importantly, self-forgiveness when we fail.
Too easily we “fall off the wagon” of resolutions. We decide it was probably not going to work out anyway. Maybe we just don’t have what it takes. Sometimes we just let go of the wagon and wave as it rolls away, choking on the dust. Did we even give ourselves a fighting chance before we became complacent?
If you want to make any New Year resolution plausible, give yourself permission to be human and allow yourself to make mistakes. Use them to decide how you want to improve yourself and/or the situation. Give yourself permission to grow. Share your resolution with someone you trust, who will dance with you when you succeed and hold your hand when you fall. The person who believes the best in you, no matter how many veggies you have stuck between your teeth. Want to take it up a notch? Be that person to someone else, filling your bucket and theirs.
So why not make every day, even every hour, the next momentum into your resolution for your life and self. Every minute is another minute you can live RIGHT NOW, that you will never get back. Don’t wait for the next big time stamp to improve yourself. You’ll be amazed at how awesome you truly are when you look back on the year, rather than resolving to make the future better.